Advice Worth Taking.

There are a great many benefits to having close friends. They provide camaraderie, insight, hopefully honest opinions, laughs, and yes...even advice. Better yet is when you find the friend that provides the "right" advice for your particular situation.

Now, you may or may not subscribe to horoscopes, zodiac signs, etc., however even I have to admit that there are certain similarities and character traits that cannot be denied. So, when my Scorpio gal friend and I talk about things, it shouldn't surprise me that more times than not, her response is EXACTLY the same as my husband's would be! My husband too is a Scorpio and he and my friend are ridiculously alike in many ways. So naturally I find myself often going to her with the "I don't get why he does this" statement. Understanding not just my husband, but men in general is much like tackling the New York Times crossword puzzles - frustrating and nearly impossible for me without help.

It is remarkable how another person's insights can clarify even the muddiest of waters. You see, my husband has the tendency, (like many men) to shut down when upset. We're working on our communication skills as a couple however it doesn't change the fact that often I'm kicking myself for not honing my psychic abilities, as it seems that is the only way I'll ever know what he's thinking. That was until "T" (as I'll refer to her, should she prefer not to be identified in some random blog that surely no one will ever read anyway). T gets him.

She will, with complete accuracy, explain what his reaction was as if I'd already told her, (which I hadn't). When I respond surprisingly with "That is EXACTLY what he said (or did)!", she'll simply say, "yeah, because he's a Scorpio and what he's thinking is...yada, yada, yada." She explains him to a "t" and is dead-on-the-money every time!

So when she gives me advice and says to stop over-analyzing his words and actions, and to "do this" because Scorpio's need to feel "this way" and not "do that" because it makes them "think this", now...I listen. And so last night, when she gave me advice to basically ease-up and just go with it, I did. And you know what? It was one of the best nights my husband and I have had in a long time. Do I thank her because she's a Scorpio? Do I thank her because she's intuitive? Perhaps, but mostly, I just want to thank her because she's my friend. Thanks T!